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rank 5470
word count 14776
date submitted 13.12.2009
date updated 10.01.2012
genres: Non-fiction, Harper True Life, Crim...
classification: universal
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Secret Addiction

Stacey Borders

Her husband is arrested for child pornography on his computer. How she and her boys survived.

 

In July of 2008, Stacey's husband was arrested at their home on charges of child pornography. He was a collector of them on his computer. He was dealt a sentence of four years and reported February 12th. This story is something new that many people have not experienced. There are no support groups, and there is very little information about it.
Stacey and her boys suffer a lot of heartache and changes in their lives. Her main goal is to protect her children and to get through life a week at a time. Many emotions arise in her and her boys as she tries to keep them from hating her. Time is the only thing that can help them survive.

 
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accused, addiction, change, computer pictures, dating, divorce, emotion, family, jail, loss, lying, pain, run, teacher, turmoil

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SammySutton wrote 649 days ago

Stacy,

Incredible, I just read everything you have posted and I would love to read more.
You and your sons are very brave. Not only is it brave to write your story so candidly
and honestly, but you looked back and assessed and became clear. You know most
like your husband do not get caught even if the do it has gone on for years. This story
can helpthe women recognize the signs. I hope and pray your story gets a cover and
a place on the shelvesof the bookstores. Fabulous job. There is a tremendous grabbing
sensation in my heart for you and yourboys. I hope you find love and affection that 'sweeps
you off your feet'.
Backed!
Good Luck!
Sammy Sutton
King Solomon's '13'

beegirl wrote 651 days ago

A story that needs to be told! I am sorry that you had to live it --but if your story gets out there others will know they are not alone. Manuscript needs a polish job and fleshed out a bit. One obvious spot is that you say two times "out of my site" obviously needs to be sight. Easy to do these things in the age of texting!
Best to you. Backed
Barbara

photosue wrote 653 days ago

Hi Stacey,
I'm glad to see you're putting your trials in a book. Keep up the good work, the more you write, the better you'll get. You have a good hook at the beginning, and from what I've read so far, (four chapters) you have a good transition at the end of each chapter. Are you going to give each chapter a title? That would help. In chapter 4-When they left, mom and Tracey hugged me ( I ) broke down. Then I USED the restroom, then decided I didn't need to go that bad. I'll read more later.
Blessings to you and your boys.

Romilla wrote 657 days ago

Stacey,
It takes one a lot of courage to walk through the ropes of life with a chin up and a lot more than that to write the story of a life that simply never materialized so normally as one would have gladly expected. I can imagine the feeling that went into it. I applaud you for writing and sharing this life with all of us here at Authonomy.com - we are all here to learn something.

I hope you find this inspiring manuscript of yours' moving closer towards the desk of a publisher or editor.

Kind Regards,

Romilla
Forgetting Sally

sye wrote 657 days ago

This is a book that NEEDS to be published. I comend you for writing this and hope to god that this ends up in bookshops thoughout the world.
BACKED
To quote from the pitch, "Time is the only thing that can help them survive"! never a truer word spoken.
best of luck

Lockjaw Lipssealed wrote 660 days ago

Tough stuff, but a good read.

Lockjaw

drachat wrote 698 days ago

How sorry I am for what you went through. Even more so for your kids! You are brave for being so honest, doesn't do much good to hide your head in the sand.

Happily Backed
Denise

Would you mind having a look at my story, "Road to Redemption: From Cop's Daughter to Convicted Felon"? My True-Life Story as well!

klouholmes wrote 714 days ago

Hi Stacey, A brave chronicle. It’s told with remorse for the marriage and the early part of it tells much about Scott’s personality. Many would wonder about the kind of person who would indulge in such an obsession. You’ve told this candidly and as a victim of it without self-pity. While it sticks to the development of the problem. Shelved – Katherine (The Swan Bonnet)

mikegilli wrote 718 days ago

Congratulations on surviving and making public
your very hard experiences.
Shelved with best wishes
mikegilli The Free

Ransom Heart wrote 720 days ago

Oh honey. You cried through your vows. You'd grab his butt and he'd tell you to stop. Then the parade of slot cars kept coming to the house and he was hooked on his Xbox. O-M-G. Run baby run. Thanks for your candor, and may the Creator send a healing spirit to nurture your soul.
Marianne (Saint Paddy and the Sundial)

delhui wrote 720 days ago

Dear Stacey --

Thank you so much for sharing this story -- it's important and timely. The closest literary source I can think of that even comes near this subject is Little Children, which is fiction, and still doesn't address child pornography exactly. You convey your dismay, your worry, your hurt and anger with great clarity, and yet you also reveal your incredible strength as you put the pieces of your life -- and your children's lives -- back together.

What struck me most was the way you could look back and point to a number of red flags that told you something was wrong, and that you thought about not getting married, and then left Scott after 5 months, only to return. We all do this; we all fail to listen when we're being told something important. I think your book may help a lot of women (and men too) start to trust themselves when they sense something isn't right.

Backed, and thank you again for your courage. -- Delhui, The Long Black Veil

zan wrote 720 days ago

Secret Addiction
Stacey Borders

Stacey,
It must have taken a lot of strength and courage to write this and post it here. As the subject matter, the crime in question, is not widely treated in literature, this should be quite an original piece.The facts you reveal are facts which I think most people would rather sweep under the carpet and forget they're there. I admire your writing this. Very ironic Scott looking at the line of police cars, saying jokingly "I hope they're not coming here" and they do! "That was the day my world feel apart." I must say, you quickly acquire the reader's sympathy and understanding. I think this is very readable and should have a great impact because it provides insights into a crime which many have little knowledge of, but most of all, it shows the strength of the human spirit, that is, yours, in coping. Happy to have backed this and I wish you well in finding a publisher.
Zan

Famlavan wrote 721 days ago

I’m in awe of your strength of character. The perspective you have brought to what to me is a horrible subject has been very special – thank you and i wish you all the luck in the world.

missyfleming_22 wrote 723 days ago

This is so powerful and gripping. It gives us a look at what happens behind the scenes, to the people we never consider when hearing something like this. You've written this full of emotion and it comes through the writing. It takes courage to share this with the world and I really respect you for it. I couldn't find anything wrong with this grammatically, it reads very nicely. Thanks for sharing this and best wishes with your writing.

Missy

lynn clayton wrote 723 days ago

Whenever I see people on the news convicted of such offences I wonder what it has done to the familes. Now I know and it's as terrible as I imagined. A brave book. Backed. Lynn

hot lips wrote 724 days ago

This is a most interesting and candid story. It has to be extremely unusual. It is also very well written. Backed with a heart and a half.
David

Amylovesbooks wrote 725 days ago

Really compelling story! There's heartbreak here, but also humor in bits and pieces, as well. I like the pace of it, and found that reading all ten chapters went fairly fast. Shelved with pleasure!

Amy
Love Match

lionel25 wrote 725 days ago

Stacey, I looked at the first two chapters. Wow! This is a different True Life Read. Thanks for being courageous enough to share the experience.

Sincerely backed.

Joffrey (The Silver Spoon Effect)

Aimee Fry wrote 729 days ago

Wow, this is emotionally gripping and although not a happy subject, it's a great read and one that is told very well. You see these stories on the news and a lot of people would probably like to read and sympathise with the family, of not only the child victims, but of the ones people never think about - the families of the people who commit these offences. You have done a wonderful job, well done.
Backed
Aimee

Neville wrote 731 days ago

This is a very sad story, I read to chapter 5-sorry. You have a lot of strength to bring it into the open for all to see.
I hope you do well with your book because you deserve it if only to bring some happiness into your life for once.
I back your book, best of luck to you. SHELVED.

Kind Regards,

Neville.

johnjoch wrote 732 days ago

A terrible story of a happening that is becoming too common these days. I am backing this because I feel it is from the heart, almost a personal story. I don't know but it rings very true.
Take a look at mine, Three Stayed Home a WW2 adventure and love story. I hope to like it and will perhaps back as well. JohnJ

Andrew Burans wrote 732 days ago

Your exploration of your own inner thoughts, doubts and angst draws the reader into this finely crafted real life story. This took a great deal of courage to write and I do hope that it was cathortic. God bless. Backed.

Cheers,
Andrew Burans
The Reluctant Warrior: The Beginning

Melcom wrote 733 days ago

An horrendous tale and your strength in handling it both in real life and on paper has to be admired.
Its hard to know what else to say, because I'm bubbling inside.

All the best for the future.

Melxx
Impeding Justice

carlashmore wrote 733 days ago

I read every single chapter and every single word. This is probably the most powerful thing I have read here. There are a few nitpicks with punctuation, but I can't even remember what they are or where they are. This is a story that should be published. And I take my hat off to you for having the guts to tell your story so openly.
Carl
The Time hunters

John Wickey wrote 736 days ago

Gripping subject matter. Good luck with this,

John WIckey
Future's End

soutexmex wrote 736 days ago

Welcome aboard, Stacey. This website will improve your writing craft, if you allow it. You have to think of your pitches as your sales tool to grab the casual reader's eyes. The short pitch works. With the long pitch, expand more on the story arch, then break it down into smaller paragraphs so it reads faster. Also end it with a succinct question so it piques your reader's interest. Perfecting your pitches is how you climb in ranking to gather more exposure and comments to better your novel. The writing is good so I am SHELVING you.

Though I have been a very active member for over a year, I can still use your comments on my book when you get the chance. Every little bit helps. Cheers!

JC
The Obergemau Key

A Knight wrote 736 days ago

There is a huge amount of strength in this writing, and I am very impressed with what I'm seeing. With child pornography on the rise, I think this is an account that needs to be told as more and more people are affected by the consequences.
Backed with pleasure.
Abi xxx

NA Randall wrote 738 days ago

Stacey,

This must have been such a harrowing experience for you and your family, and committing it to paper like this is a very brave and important thing to have done. People need to see the impact something like this can have on the lives of everyone it effects. Your writing itself is first rate. Your opening scene with scores of police cars driving into the neighbourhood is such a strong hook, and the way you've structured the book, looking back at your marriage etc, gives the reader a real insight into darkness that is to follow. I'm more han than happy to back this powerful, emotive piece of writing.

Regards

NA 'A Red Sky in Morning'

Su Dan wrote 740 days ago

fascinating story. you pull us in and keep us reading. first person works, and the short chapter make it easy to read and hold the tension...on w.l.
su dan...read SEASONS

yasmin esack wrote 740 days ago

Dear Stacey
Proud of you for writing this. The book itself is stunning and well written. But beyond that it is emotional and stirring and would certainly go a long way in helping us understand many things about this strange life we live in.
Thank you for this. And my best wishes to you and your family.

Best

SusieGulick wrote 741 days ago

Dear Stacey, I got so excited when I saw that you had backed, "Tell Me True Love Stories." Thanks so very much. :) Since I have already "backed" your book, I will also put your book on my "watchlist." Could you please take a moment to "back" my completed edited memoir version? "He Love Me, He Loves Me Not." I'd be ever so grateful. :) Thank you. :) Love, Susie :)
p.s. Remember: Every time you place a book on your bookshelf, your recommendation pushes the book up the rankings. And while that book sits on your bookshelf, your reputation as a talent spotter increases depending on how well that book performs. :)

PATRICK BARRETT wrote 741 days ago

This is a vividly authentic account and a by-product of this disaster may be that it has revealed your writing skills. Very impressive, good luck with your future and your book. Paula Barrett (Cuthbert-how mean is my valley)

SusieGulick wrote 742 days ago

Dear Stacey, I think you had your book under a different title, because I read it before - very touching & I'm sure was hard to write, as my memoir was. Your pitch is good, beaconing your book to be read. You have nice crisp paragraphs & dialogue. I'm "backing" your book (again). Please return the favor by taking a moment to "back" my TWO memoir books, "He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not" & my completed memoir unedited version? "Tell Me True Love Stories," which tells at the end, my illness now & 6th abusive marriage." Thanks, Susie :)
p.s. Remember: Every "backing" you do gives your book points & the other person's book. :)

Kidd1 wrote 742 days ago

You have guts to write this story and tell all! We are all too staid in our ways to recognize what might be right in front of our nose. This is a must read. Backed.

I hope you will give mine a read and back it if you like it.
Best,
Robert
Golden Conspiracy

Burgio wrote 742 days ago

SECRET ADDICTION
Wow. What an interesting story. It’s amazing how all of us can fool ourselves into believing what we want to believe rather than what is actually happening. I read this all the way through (you have some repetition in chapter 3). I hope you’re going to go into more detail on how people at your school reacted to this news; I bet that wasn’t pretty especially because your husband was a coach. Your writing ability shows through in this. Makes it a good read. I’m adding it to my shelf. Burgio (Grain of Salt).

crazy mama wrote 742 days ago

You are very brave to have written this. Good luck to you and your family.

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