What Every Woman
Should Know
By Jori Sams
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Scripture quotations taken from the New American Standard Bible®,
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A fresh look through history to determine what God must have been thinking when He made woman and the distance remaining until she regains her place.
TABLE OF CONTENTS with chapter description FOREWORD INTRODUCTION CHAPTER 1 - IN THE BEGINNING Explore some key verses regarding Creation and God’s ultimate purpose for creating mankind, with full anticipation for restoring man to Himself in a New Eden. Examine the differences between man and woman: how, where and why they were made. CHAPTER 2 - AFTER THE FALL Look into the changes between man and woman and their roles once they were banned from Eden. See the beginnings of agrarian society and how life was centered on owning land. Begin unpacking Mosaic Law to understand its purpose, fulfillment and the heart of God towards His people. CHAPTER 3 - PATRIARCHY RULES Learn when and where patriarchy began and just how strict this code was for those under it. Decide if this was the design and intent of God. CHAPTER 4 - BEGINNING TO UNDERSTAND THE BEGINNING Examine Mosaic Law closely with the mindset to discover if God is preferential to men. Discover what was the heart of God toward His chosen people, how He wanted to be directly involved with their lives and protect them. CHAPTER 5 -THE GLORY OF THE LAW Continue looking into Deuteronomy to see the foreshadow of the Church. Understand why God made some of the laws on marriage and how this relates to the laws on divorce. CHAPTER 6 - WOMEN AND THE HOUSEHOLD OF GOD Begin unpacking the New Testament looking at the one final law of God. Observe the radical life of Christ, His treatment of women and how He bound the carelessness of the paterfamilias. CHAPTER 7 - THE HOUSEHOLD AND THE BRIDE Analyze the different types of households and daily life during the times of antiquity. Witness the roles of the wives becoming equal to the husbands. Uncover the woman’s chief role no longer related to bearing children. CHAPTER 8 - THE CHURCH AND THE WOMAN; THE WOMAN AND THE MAN Begin investigating the status codes in the Pauline books and the metaphors of the author. Unfold the highly controversial texts that have been cut and pasted across the ages making a theology of their own, restricting women. | 5 7 10 24 39 55 72 87 107 122 | |
CHAPTER 9 - MAKING THE BRIDE BEAUTIFUL Continue investigating the challenges the early church faced. Note how Paul and Peter do away with status codes within the church. CHAPTER 10 -THE CONTINUED CONTOVERSY OF WOMEN AND SILENCE Observe how the church today is not heeding their instruction. Discern what the church could look like if it worked together to impact the world. CHAPTER 11 - AFTER THE TESTAMENTS Take a look at the impact of the church fathers, their teachings and what they said. Become educated on the definitions of “clergy” and “laity”. Decide if they church is living this out in the nature God intended. CHAPTER 12 - THE JOURNEY OF THE ROLE OF WOMEN IN THE CHURCH Notice the early church and how the role of women changed through the ages up to modern day. Examine how things like the Reformation impacted the restrictions of women. Follow the trail of the role of women and follow her path to the present day. CHAPTER 13 - THE SPIRITUAL AWAKENING ACROSS THE POND Learn the difference between Quakers and Puritans, where they came from and how they began. Establish their impact on the Colonial church. CHAPTER 14 - STILL A LITTLE FOGGY Examine some of the harsh teachings of the “doctors of the church” regarding women. See how their teachings impacted women across the centuries. CHAPTER 15 - THE PROBLEM WITH ISM’S Find out how destructive ism’s are and how they have impacted the church. Decide if things like relativism, absolutism, capitalism, fatalism, eternalism, existentialism, romanticism among others have affected your everyday life. CHAPTER 16 - FEMINISM Recognize that while many liberties have been gained, women today still remain second class. Learn the results. See how women are spending their energy in the wrong ways trying to gain what has been stolen. CHAPTER 17 - VANITY’S SAKE Discover the astounding figures women spend each year to look good. Learn when plastic surgery began, who first wore high heels, who invented the bra, how the bikini got its name, and much more. | 142 161 176 187 203 218 239 261 279 | |
CHAPTER 18 - THE MALADY OF THE FLESH Read the tragic facts about eating disorders and poor diet over the ages. Realize what was causing the British Malady and how it relates to today. Learn the impact the Industrial Revolution had on the family unit. CHAPTER 19 - IN PERFECT UNION Understand that the statistics on infidelity and divorce in the church are drastic. Study the grim figures on cybersex and pornography. Explore an area that is uncomfortable and so ignored within the church and its shattering affects. CHAPTER 20 - TEMPORARY INSANITY Realize why God created marriage and its fourfold purpose. Look at the ideal description of a husband and wife verses the reality. Decipher Proverbs 31. CHAPTER 21 - THE TROUBLE IN FAR AWAY PLACES Take a journey around the globe to compare the condition of women in modern times and the vast differences. Compare the worst places in the world to live as a woman and how most women in the world live under severe oppression. Take a look at the condition of the “fatherless generation” that plagues England. CONCLUSION - THE FINAL REVELATION BIBLIOGRAPHY | 313 328 331 351 370 375 |
FOREWORD
It’s difficult to say where this journey began. Perhaps simply from the cry of my heart for something more. This first time I ever recognized this feeling was when I was eleven. There I stood in the hallway, ill, greasy hair long and dark dropping to the middle of my back while eyes sank from the sickness that always plagued me. Yet again the call from my father came and I awaited his arrival, only to receive the weekly sum he gave my mother for caring for us, if that was what you would have called what she did. I always watched him drive away, choking on my tears.
Don’t many people survive this waning of a better life? I have been running from the demons that haunted my parents for so long. Usually they go unrecognized and continue defeating their victims through this futile life. Even church-goers do not notice them and act as if their battles are simply flesh and blood.
As a child I sensed some strange presence watching me, invisible, as I possessed deep perception. It wasn’t until just before my mother’s death, after a long night’s conversation with her, that things began to make sense. Then, in the blink of an eye, she was gone as life as I know it passed from her.
Some of my suffering has been self-inflicted as I failed beneath the chains that bound me, at the time unrecognized. And many times I have crumbled at the feet of Christ, exhausted from the chase. This dark cloud never seeming to lift.
One cannot experience such things at a young age and remained unaffected. So many questions. And a lifetime of learning. There was laughter, too, amongst sorrow upon sorrow.
And what can be said of the rest of my suffering? Only that I pray to the utmost that God has been glorified, and is being glorified still, by it. That it was never for nothing. That He is finishing what He began in me. That is the moment when my chest feels like it is going to cave in from all the pain and the weight bearing upon it, somehow I press on in the great hope that God is not finished with this canvas yet. Something really good is going to come from it. God will not disappoint me.
He will deliver me from this evil, and not lead me to temptation. I will be gracious and merciful because of it.
I have waited as God has taught me how to prosper. Some of my energy has been wasted, and a lot of time with it. But some of it has been spent striving for profitable things, too, like knowledge and understanding and wisdom. This is where the journey began regarding this book. It has been written through agony and determination and tears. I pray that it will become clear that I have authored this book with integrity on my knees asking for Divine guidance.
It has been put together through the continual physical suffering that God allows to come my way. I am a bow in the hands of God being stretched ever tighter. He will not release me until I am sure to hit my mark. I pray I have hit it.
INTRODUCTION
“This job has been given to me to do. Therefore, it is a gift. Therefore, it is a privilege. Therefore, it is an offering I may make to God.” Elizabeth Elliot
Perhaps I am being melodramatic. But in this moment I am baring my soul. For long years have I written and enjoyed poetry and such creative works. I am always inspired by artistic genius, wishing to produce something of the same with whatever tool I am working.
In this work, I hope to explore a long range of subjects regarding women and I intend to battle some of the tough ones. If the reader resembles the author, they have many questions they need answered. I have done lengthy research to get to the heart of this subject: are men and women really created equal? Do they have equality? What should my response be to my world around me in this? Where did the idea of equality start? Was it God’s idea? Are women really the daughters of Eve-il? Did the life of Jesus Christ really change anything?
I will unpack the Old and New Testaments to get some answers. This will require a look into the culture of the day and the battles faced. I will discover why God made man and woman. And I will take a look through the centuries up to today to see the changing role of women in society and in the church.
It is also important to understand my present culture and the challenges I now face. I will also explore marriage and God’s purpose for it. Some of the discoveries may astound the reader. Some may strengthen and encourage them. Finally, I will take a brief look at other cultures in modern times.
All of this I have written in hopes that the reader will have a breakthrough like me. That this breakthrough will improve their quality of life and set them free.
The reader needs to brave as they read and take some time to follow along with the Scriptures. Some of what I write one may find offensive. It may also be life-changing. Perhaps a bit graphic to the fainthearted. I will warn that I am direct with my points. No glossing over. I dare say some will call me critical and this work controversial.
In life I have been a shaker and a mover; I am a pioneer and I hope to die with my boots on.
I am not trying to make friends and become popular by what I say. People are in dark and desperate days and need some concrete answers. When someone throws a lifesaver, one should be sure to take it.
What I do not want to do is deceive. I do not have a shining record, free and clear of error or bad decisions. I do not dare to supply details and answers as if I have discovered them by living right. I have not made a lot of really great choices in life. No. But by the grace of God go I.
Everything I have gained, I have bought through suffering.
Let it not be wasted. I have researched and done the hard labor of sorting out and selecting facts that I thought every woman should know…