Get More Sex from Your Wife

I ignored your 'No Girls Allowed' placard and barged right into your manuscript...
I guess I was curious about what kind of advice to give to my husband since he whines about not getting enough sex all the time – hah! Turns out it's the whining itself!

And while I personally don't think that the opposite of woman is the opposite of weak, and while this will anger a lot of men along with us girls, I do agree with you about how whining is a turn-off. You also picked up on the whole thing that it's not the hair/money/car/job/etc that makes a man truly attractive but the attitude, and by extension his seduction. So despite your provocative attempt at Chauvinism, you've still managed a little transcendence. I'd rather you were just provocative.

You repeat yourself a little bit from chapter to chapter, so you will need to tighten up those sweet little chapters into shiny nuggets. Your punctuation sometimes misfires, but that's minor.
– Bea B.

hi Cutter,
this is very good indeed, full of insight and definitely deeply knowledgable about electricity between yin and yang. Your devotion to your wife is admirable, and I applaud the fact that you loved her enough to go on this round-trip adventure to woo her back and keep her. Unfortunately, this takes a confident and independent man, and let's face it, most men marry their mothers in order to be able to winge at home, as it is so cosy and familiar.
So, yes, any man with a sense of self-reliance is a turn-on for a woman, and a man who can run rings around her without losing his power position is a wonderful temple-guard who nourishes her desires of security and safety, something which is hypnotising to the point where all the natural womanly instincts begin to flow from within: the baby will be safe, so let's do the things which make them appear. Great psychology, and fun to read.
Ame,
Animal Town Trilogy

Hi Cutter,
Your book is a guilty pleasure indeed. I just finished reading the available chapters and I dare say I'd like to read the rest. I have to comment that your insights are so accurate that it's only because of the laughable state of the human condition that this is considered a work of humor. You do have a very natural voice to your work. I'm sure this is a marketable product although you may have to take the bull by the horns and self publish. It reminds me of the "How to Make Love to a Woman" reference that has been advertised in the back of Popular Science for the last thirty years. They have obviously found a marketing model that works and stands to be emulated.
I don't have any suggestions regarding the writing as it seems to convey the subject matter in a friendly, knowledgeable way. Like the friend that has learned to score with women filling you in on technique over drinks at the bar.
I'll wrap up with a shameless plug for my book "ODIN'S TOE" which I assume you'd enjoy since we're both obsessed with the same thing.
Odin's friend Broy has a classic line: "I love women. I try to eat at least one every day!"
I'm looking for authors with an interest in comedy to give me some feedback so, if you've got the time I'd appreciate your input. I don't care if you rate me or shelve me. All I'm looking for is readers with opinions.
Best of Luck on Your Book,
PJ Qats

Hi Cutter,
Well, I read some more of your chapters. You are indeed a funny guy! "Variety good, boring bad." So many humorous statements and it's such an easy read - you've got all the components for a sitcom ala Two and a Half Men (as I suggested before, you could be a writer for that show!)

Things that don't ring true - as a woman myself, I know that a woman wants a man who is truly interested in her. Not someone pretending to care about her or the things she's interested in, but someone who truly is. I agree that it's nice to find someone who is different and adds that dashingly handsome, bad boy adventuresome and living-on-the-edge point of view. But, when it comes right down to it, if the man isn't sincere and honest, it's not going to work. So I think your premise if fine so long as the man truly loves his wife and would do anything to please her. There simply must be trust. If you're full of b.s., she's going to know it and no amount of following these guidelines is going to help.

Actually, I think with little exception, men and women are exactly the same in their need for love and companionship. It's only our culture that divides us and makes us think the other sex is not quite human.

Anyway, that's way serious and not in the spirit of your book, which is fun and witty. I think you should keep writing it, 12 chapters of #!#@ macho %#@@! misogynist @#$#! bs is not enough! Of course I like it despite myself!

Very best regards,
Eliabeth

Yeah I think if she married the guy hopefully there's just a teency weency bit of love in there somewhere. I hope the guy doesn't have to fake that! But honestly, I think every long and successful marriage goes through trying times, which can include "loosing the sparkle" of romance and/or emotional feelsings of love. At times, effort to improve one's marriage doesn't always spring from rainbows of happiness with one's spouse, and can come fron a sense of cold decision and willpower to do what is right. At the low point in my own marriage, I had to just work at it until love "grew back." My wife's many responses of confusion, offense, happiness, and attraction prompted changes in her which made my love for her grow, which made my efforts increase, which made my love for her grow, which... you get the point.

The differences to which I like to appeal are more... ehhh... ovarian in nature. More of a survival of the fittest species view, DESPITE culture. Culture and hormones usually don't agree: My body says "Eat as much sugar as you can, every time you find it." because in nature, early man rarely found sugar... but our culture says, "lay off the sugar." So today, our culture says to women, "find a man who is respectful and sensitive, kind and caring..." and then so many wonderful women find themselves attracted to jerks who beat them, wondering WHY on earth they were attracted to these men... it wasn't cultural, it wasn't logical-- perhaps, something deeper keep them going back to their neanderthals? So, the allure of the sugar can be more captivating and fun than the responsibility of a rigourous diet... I believe that a husband can be the sun and the moon to his wife if he will appeal to both her heart and her hormones.

People have 6 psychological needs: Security/saftey, Self-esteem, Growth, Contribution/giving, Variety (which is often in conflict with security), and Connection/Love. If a women is getting all of these basic needs met by her husband,... that's the ideal. Meet her needs on ALL levels.

Misogynist? :-) I LOVE women, thank you! Every guy should have one!

Thanks!
Taylor

Hi Cutter,
Well, I read some more of your chapters. You are indeed a funny guy! "Variety good, boring bad." So many humorous statements and it's such an easy read - you've got all the components for a sitcom ala Two and a Half Men (as I suggested before, you could be a writer for that show!)

Things that don't ring true - as a woman myself, I know that a woman wants a man who is truly interested in her. Not someone pretending to care about her or the things she's interested in, but someone who truly is. I agree that it's nice to find someone who is different and adds that dashingly handsome, bad boy adventuresome and living-on-the-edge point of view. But, when it comes right down to it, if the man isn't sincere and honest, it's not going to work. So I think your premise if fine so long as the man truly loves his wife and would do anything to please her. There simply must be trust. If you're full of b.s., she's going to know it and no amount of following these guidelines is going to help.

Actually, I think with little exception, men and women are exactly the same in their need for love and companionship. It's only our culture that divides us and makes us think the other sex is not quite human.

Anyway, that's way serious and not in the spirit of your book, which is fun and witty. I think you should keep writing it, 12 chapters of #!#@ macho %#@@! misogynist @#$#! bs is not enough! Of course I like it despite myself!

Very best regards,
Eliabeth

Ha! This is great. Love it.
(Ahem) Maybe if the guys would get off the couch set down the remotes, clobber a squirrel over the head and drag it home . . . well . . . then again, maybe not.

Backed.

Suz

Hi Cutter, well it obviously worked for you,so good luck.
I have been married 46 years and fortunately never needed any of your ideas or advice.
The humour of the book is good, and the writing style is fine. I will back it, and hope it does well.
David (Flawless Murder)

I have to know, are you Australian?? You gotta be Australian?? Teeny weeny...? No? Ok - I admit it's funny. Just checking your sense of humour. Could even be a best seller, more's the shame. Ah well, onward and upward.

I can't answer that question, it could blow my cover! Thanks though. :-)

I think there's a lot of wisdom in this. How much is sarcasm, tongue in cheek and just plain gimmick? Who fricking cares? This is damn funny!

J. Moore
Vigilante

Thanks J. I guess that's just my personality coming out. :-) I really, honestly, actually do everything that this book says to do, plus a whole lot more which will be in the other chapters. No sarcasm, no tongue in cheek, no gimmicks.

I have to know, are you Australian?? You gotta be Australian?? Teeny weeny...? No? Ok - I admit it's funny. Just checking your sense of humour. Could even be a best seller, more's the shame. Ah well, onward and upward.

I think there's a lot of wisdom in this. How much is sarcasm, tongue in cheek and just plain gimmick? Who fricking cares? This is damn funny!

J. Moore
Vigilante

Dear Cutter,
This is funny in a completely misogynist way. How can you claim to love your wife when the only thing that appeals to you about her is the sex? I'll bet that you're no prize either. But in any case, yes, it's funny.

BACKED
Elizabeth Wolfe (MEMORIES OF GLORY)

Misogynist? I happen to LOVE women! :-) I love everything about them. In fact, the more womanly a woman is, the better baby! Every guy should own one. ;-)

As for love,... Any pubescent boy can be infatuated with a girl,... but I believe in love as a verb. Love is an action to be "lived out" and proved by the test of time. I could go on and on and on about how I love my little wifey.

As for me being no "catch," Ha! If a schmuck like me can have a great marriage, any guy can. :-)

Cutter: do apologize for this spam comment but I did BACK your book. Though my book is currently on the Ed's Desk, I can still use your comments on my book before the end of this month. Thanks - cheers!

JC
The Obergemau Key

Dear Cutter,
This is funny in a completely misogynist way. How can you claim to love your wife when the only thing that appeals to you about her is the sex? I'll bet that you're no prize either. But in any case, yes, it's funny.

BACKED
Elizabeth Wolfe (MEMORIES OF GLORY)

Does this work on men as well, because I have to beg and plead and pay him off like a hooker to get any. Scary really. I will read this and see if I can use your advice to get somewhere in my house.

Dear Cutter, I won't tell either! Well written. Always good to listen to the voice of experience! Backed. Gordon - The Harpist of Madrid

Cutter - Hello!

Has your wife been told? If not, just back my book and I won't say a word. Tony Brady

Hi Cutter, Your voice and tellings about your wife really made me laugh at first. I’d think your success in adjusting her attitudes would cause men to read the book. And women would be interested in your dedication to monogamy. This is upbeat and your starting with humor rather than romance is a different tack on the subject. It looks as if the chapters have good focus, casual as the writing is. An enjoyable read. Shelved – Katherine (The Swan Bonnet)

A strident voice in an ever increasingly PC world.

BACKED

Your insights are very interesting and the advice that you give is most solid. Your straight forward, easy-to-read writing style sprinkled with appropriate touches of humour is perfect for this genre of book. Your book should enlighten many men as well as some women. Backed with pleasure.

Andrew Burans
The Reluctant Warrior: The Beginning

Yes, nature is a beautiful thing. I wish I had read this when I was eighteen. When you get the rhythm of living "as nature intended," it's pretty darn fun.

Memphisgirl
Ashes By Now

the plain cover is pretty dull

Where the hell did this guy come from? This is good! My guess is this guy has published before, he is some college professor that does not want to get fired for being a sexist pig. I'm backing this big time! I laughed so hard that I cried.

Heaven

Hey experts, this is Cutter, do you like the cover with "me" on it or should I swap out an elegant silhouette of a woman standing? I don't want it to look smutty. Please advise!

Witty, funny...having watched my mum and dad for years I understand we're the author is coming from!
A great novel, light-hearted and a frank account of marriage in general (warts and all).
Best wishes
Alison Butler

Where the hell did this guy come from? This is good! My guess is this guy has published before, he is some college professor that does not want to get fired for being a sexist pig. I'm backing this big time! I laughed so hard that I cried.

Cutter. I am reposting this comment as my efforts appear to have got lost in the ether yesterday!
..... 2 books' prologues caught my attention easily tonight - yours was one of them - I wonder why!. so I felt I must read some of it. although you only loaded part of your novel, i was impressed by its originality on a hyped topic . Well done. will read some more and get back to you. BACKED.
On a very different genre, I would appreciate you looking/backing at my childrens' book if you think fit - Paperbat Adventures. Thanks
Jerry - paperbats

Dear Cutter

loved your short and long pitch both really sell your book which they are meant too so CONGRATS, and love the way you write. Your ability with words to craft an orginal read is amazing. I have to wonder on this site at the
immense talent of those like yourself and this book does have good humor also thank you, original and needed

BACKED BY ME FOR SURE.
Please take a moment to look, COMMENT which is important to me, and BACK my book. if not that is OK
also

The VERY best of luck to you

Denise
The Letter

Ha this book is awesome. I'd buy it in a heartbeat!!!!

I don't agree with a lot of this, but at least it gets men thinking. Talking about 'men' and 'women' is a fallacy. People are individuals . It's like talking about 'cats' or 'dogs'. They are individuals too. Don't know why I bother.

My reactions changed as I continued to read the work. At first the lengthy introduction concerning what the work is "Not About" concerned me from a marketability viewpoint. Then, as I continued to read I realized that "guess what," I was continuing to "read." Well done. Backed with pleasure.

Thanks that's good feedback I'll tone down the intro crap a bit. You'll see your advice added in there the next time I update the book on here... for now the changes will just be on my computer. Thanks! --Cutter

My reactions changed as I continued to read the work. At first the lengthy introduction concerning what the work is "Not About" concerned me from a marketability viewpoint. Then, as I continued to read I realized that "guess what," I was continuing to "read." Well done. Backed with pleasure.

Thanks that's good feedback I'll tone down the intro crap a bit. You'll see your advice added in there the next time I update the book on here... for now the changes will just be on my computer. Thanks! --Cutter

My reactions changed as I continued to read the work. At first the lengthy introduction concerning what the work is "Not About" concerned me from a marketability viewpoint. Then, as I continued to read I realized that "guess what," I was continuing to "read." Well done. Backed with pleasure.

Thanks that's good feedback I'll tone down the intro crap a bit. You'll see your advice added in there the next time I update the book on here... for now the changes will just be on my computer. Thanks! --Cutter

Cutter:
Ever consider a less subtle, nuanced title? :-) Seriously, I enjoyed this; it's in a similar style and voice as my own book, PULLING THE GOALIE. I think you have a strong narrative voice, and your theme is timely in a world of ever-shifting gender roles. My only bit of advice is some offered to me when I started on Authonomy. I think labeling it as a Christian book, though possibly accurate, may be more alienating than helpful for readers used to that genre.
Best of luck with your book. Backed.

True, I guess while it isn't offensive to Christians... ehh,... let me rephrase that, it isn't SUPPOSED to be offensive to Christians,... its not geared towards the holy huddle, but for any married guy. I'll probably remove the tag. Thanks!
Peace,
Christian Piatt
PULLING THE GOALIE

MORE SEX
This book is, as the pitch suggests, offensive to women because it treats them as if they are objects to be molded rather than equal partners in a relationship. That said, it’s a fun to read book. I’m at all sure that all the advice such as don’t share a bad day at work is accurate but who knows? I’m happy to add it to my shelf. If you have a moment, would you look at mine (Grain of Salt)? I’m in 3rd place but only holding on by my teeth. Burgio

This is a hilarious yet thought provoking read! Excellent. Backed.

Liz
The Cheech Room

This was a funny, lively and engaging read.

Then I came across this on Fox News today, and for a moment thought it must be your book :-)!
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,599562,00.html

Cutter:
Ever consider a less subtle, nuanced title? :-) Seriously, I enjoyed this; it's in a similar style and voice as my own book, PULLING THE GOALIE. I think you have a strong narrative voice, and your theme is timely in a world of ever-shifting gender roles. My only bit of advice is some offered to me when I started on Authonomy. I think labeling it as a Christian book, though possibly accurate, may be more alienating than helpful for readers used to that genre.
Best of luck with your book. Backed.
Peace,
Christian Piatt
PULLING THE GOALIE

My reactions changed as I continued to read the work. At first the lengthy introduction concerning what the work is "Not About" concerned me from a marketability viewpoint. Then, as I continued to read I realized that "guess what," I was continuing to "read." Well done. Backed with pleasure.

Cutter,
I knew all this!

I just didn't know how to express it. I do think you will have both sexes buying this book--your suggestions are right on. Take a look, please, at Summer Rose. You'll like it.
Caroline
KC Hart
Summer Rose

Ok, I didn't know what to expect and I was pleasantly surprised. This is a fantastic, completely true, "how-to" book that every man, and woman, should read. I laughed out loud at the no skidmark comment. I, too, agree that men are becoming women and vice versa. I can say that I want a man, a protector; it's security and outrageously sexy. I'd line up to buy your book!

Fantastic and happily backed
Denise

Would you mind taking a peek at "Road to Redemption: From Cop's Daughter to Convicted Felon?"

Still having trouble uploading your book. Shame, but I will get there.. Paula Barrett (Cuthbert-how mean is my valley)

20 August 2010
Get More Sex is a book that uses every device in the literary tool bag to engage the reader. Needless to say it works. It is arrogant and loudmouthed --and immediately hooks those who can't resist an argument. It is scathingly dismissive of female reasoning but strangely supportive of feminine intuition --attracting those who like a conundrum. It is provocatively macho, enticing those who want to witness a fall from a high horse, but underlying the whole piece is a frankness that is refreshing, in this PC conscious age. No minced words, direct as a belaying pin this work has legs. Caustically funny and, most importantly, eminently readable.. BACKED. Robert Davidson. The Tuzla Run.

Hi Cutter, you're right, this is fun, thought provoking and, if you don't mind me saying, rather tender.
Shiva and Parvati (the Hindu God of destruction and his loving,gentle wife) are archetypes. Sun and moon, Yin and Yang...but of course, every Yin contains a Yang and every Yang a little bit of Yin.
Backed with pleasure,
Barry
LITTLE KRISNA AND THE BIHAR BOYS

Ok I'm a guy and it's 2 in the morning. can't sleep and this book crosses my read list. I laughed enough to wake the wife. Not a good thing in my house but good enough for me to back this book.

Ron Coffman - DRAGON'S LIGHT

Dear Cutter,
Congrats on posting Get More Sex From Your Wife. I've only skimmed past your first chapters, and thought your work was good enough to back and certainly support. It's different and original.
Backed with pleasure
Helen
The Last Dream

:) comment to follow :)

Its an honour for a nube like me to have a top-ranked reviewer such as yourself even look at my babbling!

Dear Cutter, I love your book - everything thing you said is right. :) Wish my husband was like your suggestions. He thinks saying I love you & being a provider is all he has to do - all he does in the house is sleep & eat - no fix-it man or chores, even. It would be easy to choose Rico Suave, but I've had 6 abusive husbands already - attentive before marriage, but once they got me have their own life & I'm their mother. I've backed your book :) - hope you'll back my 2 memoir books. :) Thanks. :) Love, Susie :)

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